Kids will be always kids, but their toys have changed―and it can be overwhelming!
We are inundated with all kinds of sensory-stimulating noise and light toys, and digital media-based platforms with child-oriented software and apps.
Get back to basics: traditional toy categories
Symbolic/pretend – Pretending through toy characters (such as
dolls, animals, and action figures) and toy objects (like
food, utensils, cars, planes, and buildings) help children learn to use words and stories to imitate, describe, and cope with real life events and feelings. Imagination is the key here! Imaginary play is a large part of a child's social and emotional development.
Fine-motor/adaptive/manipulative – Children can learn problem solving skills with the "traditional favorites" (like
blocks, shapes, puzzles, and trains). These types of toys support fine motor skills and can improve language and brain development. Some of these toys also build early math skills, as well.
Art – High quality does not mean expensive. Things as simple as cardboard boxes or pads of paper still make little ones happy.
Coloring books, crayons, markers, clay, stickers all make great gifts, build creativity, and help improve fine motor skills.
Language/concepts – Many traditional toys are now available in electronic versions, while new toys often are built to substitute for human interaction. For example, a toy bear that reads a story aloud or a board game that is now available as an app with virtual players. But actual human interactions are essential for a child's growth and development. Digital toys should never take the place of real, face-to-face play.
Traditional card games and board games (not the video game or app versions) and even
toy letters and books create opportunities for you and your child to interact and have fun together.
Gross motor/physical – Toys that include physical activity (like playing with
balls, push and pull toys, ride-on toys, and tricycles) help physical development and can improve
self-regulation and peer-interaction because of the negotiations around rules that typically take place when kids play together.
Toy shopping reminders
Use caution when you see "educational" on the label. The truth is most tablets, computer games, and apps advertised as "educational" really aren't. Most "educational" apps target memory skills, such as ABCs and shapes. These skills are only one part of school readiness. The skills young children really need to learn for success in school (and life) include impulse control, managing emotions, and creative, flexible thinking. These are best learned through
unstructured and social play with family and friends. Research suggests tablet-based toys may actually delay social development for infants and young children, because they don't include real-life facial expressions, gestures, and vocalizations.
Be aware of the potential for toys to promote race or gender-based stereotypes. Just as toys have changed over time, so have our expectations of "what girls do" and "what boys do." All children need the opportunity to explore different gender roles and different styles of play. Offer children's books or puzzles showing men and women in non-stereotypical and diverse gender roles (like stay-at-home dads, working moms, male nurses, and female police officers). Have a wide range of toys for your child to choose from―including baby dolls, toy vehicles, action figures, and blocks.
See
Gender Identity Development in Children.
Limit video game and computer game use. Total screen time, including television and computer use, should be less than 1 hour per day for children 2 years or older and avoided for those younger than 2 years of age. Children younger than 5 years should only be allowed to play with developmentally appropriate computer or video games, ideally together with a parent or caregiver.
See
Healthy Digital Media Use Habits for Babies, Toddlers & Preschoolers.
Remember
A certain toy is not necessary for your child to reach his or her next developmental milestone. There is no one app that will teach your child to read. While it's easy to fall victim to the marketing, you are your child's best teacher.
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