If you're worried about your child's risk for
suicide, you are not alone.
In 2021, emergency departments across the U.S. noted a sharp rise in 12- to-17-year-olds needing treatment for suicidal thoughts or actions. And in a recent
report, 4 in 10 high school students reported feeling "persistently sad or hopeless," while 1 in 5 said they'd thought about suicide.
Grief, isolation and fear caused by the pandemic may have been possible causes. But experts say the pressures that can lead young people to consider suicide have been rising for years.
Caring and informed family support can help kids cope when life feels overwhelming. (Parents, share one teen's story, "Finding support and hope after loss" with your child, below.)
You will feel better prepared to help your child when you know more about these suicide risk factors:
Previous suicide attempts
Young people who have already tried to take their lives face higher risks for suicide. Risks remain high for at least one year after a suicide attempt, so follow-up care is crucial.
One study shows that the stigma and shame people feel after trying to end their lives may drive them to try again. After a suicide attempt, research also suggests that
self-harm, such as cutting, places kids at higher risk for suicide in the following year.
Family experiences
There are many family issues that can affect youth suicide risks. For example, research shows that when one family member dies by suicide, others in the same family are more likely to end their life. Kids who live with
abuse, violence, and other forms of trauma are also at greater risk of suicide. Separation from loved ones due to
death, divorce,
deployment, deportation,
incarceration and other factors can cause mental health struggles that may contribute to suicide risks, as can the loss of stable
housing. Studies also suggest that kids who are adopted and those who have spent time in foster care are more likely to be exposed to
trauma and adversity; this can raise their risk for suicide.
Social pressures relating to sexual orientation or gender identity
Young people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer or
two-spirit (LGBTQ2S+) are
4 times more likely to attempt suicide than their straight (heterosexual or cisgender) peers. However, sexual orientation and gender identity themselves are not directly linked to suicide. Rather, youth who identify as LGBTQ2S+ may experience discrimination, hostility and rejection, which can lead to suicidal thoughts and actions. One study found that when kids experience negative family and social reactions to
coming out, this can raise suicide risks.
Racism
Racism, discrimination and related systemic bias are extremely harmful to mental health. Also, a history of systemic racism limits children's ability to access developmentally and culturally responsive mental health services in communities and schools. Racism and discrimination have led to significant differences in suicide risk and rates based on race and ethnicity.
One study of Black and Latinx youth showed that even subtle discrimination is linked with suicidal thinking. As the American Psychological Association (APA) notes,
race-related stress threatens the inner resources people need to cope with everyday life. The APA offers
tools and insights for parents who, along with their kids, need strategies for overcoming the erosive effects of racism.
Depression
Adolescents
who experience depression are more likely to attempt suicide. Parents may notice depression symptoms such as sadness, irritability, hopelessness, boredom, and the tendency to feel overwhelmed most or all the time. But some kids are good at hiding their feelings or don't know how to share them. Since 1 in every 5 adolescents and teens will face depression at some point, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that all kids aged 12 and over be screened for depression and suicide risks in yearly health checkups.
Other mental health conditions
Mood disorders, eating disorders and other psychiatric conditions can increase a child's risk of suicide. For example, young people with
schizophrenia may hear voices (auditory hallucinations) that seem to be telling them to take their own lives, even though they do not want to die.
Alcohol and substance use
Substance use is a factor in roughly 1 in 3 youth suicides. Young people may intentionally take large doses of drugs as a way of ending their lives. Alcohol and drug use can also cause a break from reality, or psychotic episode, that causes hallucinations or delusions that lead to suicide.
Behavior problems
Young people who experience extreme anger or have a history of aggressive, impulsive behavior face higher suicide risks. Strong feelings themselves aren't the sole cause, since most children and teens experience intense emotions and moods. But youths who act out feelings in destructive ways may end their lives, especially if they are socially isolated, using drugs or alcohol, or consuming
media in excessive, unhealthy ways.
Knowledge of other suicides, especially close to home
One study showed that when young people learn about the suicide of someone they know, they
are more likely to consider or attempt suicide. Parents should pay close attention when suicides happen, especially when losses involve family members, friends, or school peers. Children and teens may need extra support, including professional counseling, to cope with strong feelings they are experiencing.
Easy access to guns
Firearms are the top cause of death for teens 15-19 years old who die by suicide. Even when guns are locked up, studies show that teens who live in homes with firearms are more likely to kill themselves than those in homes without guns. Teens, whose brains are still developing, tend to be more impulsive than adults. A momentary decision to attempt suicide with a gun often leaves no chance for rescue. The safest home for children and teens is one without guns. If guns are kept in the home, they should be stored safely: locked and unloaded, with ammunition stored separately in a locked location. Family members should make sure the child does not know the codes to the locks or the location of keys.
Bullying and cyberbullying
Kids who are bullied―and those who bully others―face higher risks of suicidal thoughts and actions. This is true whether bullying happens face-to-face or online (cyberbullying).
A 2021 study found that adolescents who were bullied online were roughly 12 times more likely to have suicidal thoughts than peers who were not.
Finding support and hope after loss
By Bronwyn D.
I am a high school junior and a mental health youth advocate. Over the summer, I had an opportunity to job-shadow at an
occupational therapy office. In the middle of sanitizing equipment and learning about injury recovery, one elderly patient called me over.
We made small talk. Then, abruptly, he asked me if I was old enough to remember the suicide of a teenage girl that had rocked our New Jersey community in 2020. He had little idea that her death had shaped my passion for mental health advocacy. As our conversation ended, the man confidently told me, "You seem like
you have your head on straight, though."
At this, I could not help but laugh. It was true that I appeared to be a proactive, sociable student. But in reality, I had faced my own struggles as well.
My father passed away from stage IV cancer just five months prior, infusing grief into my everyday life. Small things, like getting ready for the day instead of staying in bed—so easy for me before my father's diagnosis—seemed impossible.
These warning signs went unnoticed by even my closest friends. I felt stuck in an unending downward spiral until my mother came to my rescue. She did not downplay my feelings or tell me to look on the bright side. Instead, she offered me what others had not: empathy.
My mother was not afraid of putting the idea of suicide into my head. Instead, she asked directly if I was thinking about it and responded accordingly. There is no doubt that her actions saved my life. I reached out to the
Crisis Text Line, drawing from my own mental health advocacy training and my mother's steadfast support.
Many parents hesitate to reach out to their struggling teens. Perhaps they are worried about their own ignorance or pushing their teens too far. My own mom did not know exactly the right things to say or do, either. And yet, simply offering to be there for me was enough.
Thanks to my mom, I found more than just healing on the path toward learning how to live with my grief. I found hope. And though I still don't believe my head will ever be "on straight" as the patient had suggested, my mother proved that I have someone I can count on. Now, I can move forward and be that someone for others.
Bronwyn D. is a high school junior in New Jersey and a youth advocate for Mental Health America. She is a member of the American Academy of Pediatrics Youth Leadership Group for Youth Suicide Prevention.
How to provide the support young people need
Suicide is the second leading cause of death among young people 10 to 24 years old, so families should know the warning signs and be ready to help their children.
Know that it's OK to ask about suicide. If you are concerned about your child,
ask them directly if they are thinking about suicide. Studies have shown that asking about suicide will not "put the idea into their head." In fact, it could open the door to an honest conversation about their mental health.
Make sure kids know it's OK to talk about suicide. Raise the topic in a calm, non-judgmental way to help them feel safe sharing their thoughts and feelings. Here are tips for
opening the conversation.
Don't wait to seek professional help. If you see signs that your child might be considering suicide, get in touch with your family pediatrician right away to find mental health resources and support. If you need immediate support, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1(800) 273-TALK or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting "TALK" to 741741 in the United States or Canada.
Consider telehealth. Your child may find it easier to talk with health professionals from the comfort of home. For teens especially, online health appointments should take place in a private space, which may help them speak more freely.
Telehealth visits are also a convenient way to make sure young people get the timely, ongoing support they need.
If you are unsure about what to do or need immediate support, call The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or text 'TALK" to 741741. Trained lifeline staff will help you figure out immediate steps to protect your child.
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